So many opinions…

I’ve been meaning to blog about so much as of late. How the Democratic race for President has been pissing me off, my thoughts on the Oscars and the state of higher education in the United States today. However, I’ve been writing more than usual these days outside of my blog, and just haven’t had the energy to commit my opinions to the internet.

Despite my typing fatigue, I’ll get this out.

This evening, my roommate T, her boyfriend J and I were sitting around discussing bras at the dinner table. Don’t ask me how it came up. Recently we all got into a heated argument about why J should not have a gun in his car. In our house, these debates just sort of happen. Anyway, J’s opinion is that padded bras are false advertising. This invoked an angered rebuttal from both T and I, as we suggested that meant men wouldn’t like those women once the bras came off. I then asked if that same rationale applied to make-up. J replied that guys tend to know what type of girl they are going out with based on whether she wears the make-up for any and all occasions (i.e. zipping out to get a burger) or if she goes all natural.

I know we all want to look our best to attract the most ideal mate. Gradually, as you get more comfortable with one another, the gimmicks come off and your left with your true self.

I say NO!

I’d rather start off at the true self.

I’m not overweight by any means. On the contrary. I’ve got an excellent body mass index according to LA Fitness. But I’m not one of these girls I see walking around ASU in their bikini tops and mini skirts either. That works for them and I’m sure many of them are upset at how they are viewed for their beauty. I joke about my body a lot. Sure I wish jean shopping were easier and that I didn’t feel like I had to wear a skirt over my swimsuit bottom. But I joke that what I lack in stunning beauty, I make up for in personality. I’ve got ten times the personality of most people, and a booming voice to match. No amount of make-up or push bras are going to conceal my outright nerdiness. So if I have no choice but to put all of my personality flaws out there, what use is it to dress myself up to attract the opposite sex? My personality is what my ideal partner is going to have to deal with on a daily basis. The length of my eyelashes or the perkiness of my breasts is not going to keep a conversation going. And Lord knows, I need conversation )

Here’s my approach. You meet and interact with someone. That person strikes you as great friend material, someone you’d like to hang out with and hear more about. You’re friends for awhile. Friends are good for testing the waters with personalities. If your temperaments clash, then you don’t have the awkwardness of having to break off a dating relationship. You’ll just be friends who have friendly debates. But if your personalities mesh well, then you’ve got a starting off point to take that to the “next level”, whatever that is. Plus, no friend is going to expect you to dress up for them. What better place to start of a relationship than with someone whose vision of you can only improve? Who will appreciate your dressing up for them even more because they’ve seen you after a hang over, with mascara under your eyes and your skin flaky and pale?

So don’t panic about that first night you spend together. Whether he’ll cringe at your pyscotic hair in the morning, or your foul morning breath. He probably won’t look to hot either.