This post is actually from my old blog – published June 11, 2008. However, the topic has come up quite a bit in conversations as of late, so I thought I’d answer everyone’s questions as once and just regurgitate it here.
Someone brought up the Myers Briggs personality test the other day in conversation. I knew I had taken it before I had gone to college in order to pair me with a roommate of a similar character. I couldn’t remember what I was, but it didn’t turn out so well for me then as she was a 280-pound bisexual pot dealer, so maybe I wrote off the test as farce.
Tangent. Back to story.
I decided to take the test again and see what my results were. In case any of my loyal readers are interested, you can find this test by typing in “free myers briggs” in Google search.
The result was ESFJ — extroverted, sensing, feeling, judging.
I don’t know how much credence I give to these tests. Probably about the same I give to astrological sign compatibility, which is some since most of my close friends are Capricorns and our signs are apparently well matched. But, as usual, there are some pieces that fit and made me curious.
To begin, I’m labeled the “caregiver” or the perfect “hostess” type. This is because ESFJ’s are very aware of the people around them and how they are feeling. According to the survey, people like to be around me because I make them feel good about themselves. That makes sense since I’m the biggest ego booster I know. Who wouldn’t want to be around someone like that? 
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The survey was also correct about having a strong need to be in control and not being shy about expressing opinions. What I found interesting is that though, according to the survey, I have a strong moral code, it is based on the world around me as opposed to an internal value system. I never really thought about this, but that really explains why I often can argue both sides of an issue.
It’s very true that, as an ESFJ, I am often hurt by indifference and will do pretty much anything people ask of me. Of course, the survey doesn’t talk about how ESFJ’s need to learn how to say no.
I love this stuff.
Myers-Briggs personality theory has been really useful in helping me figure out what makes others tick. Plus, it’s been helpful in my relationship with John since we’re very different. It’s definitely a fun conversation topic. And ESFJ definitely makes sense for you. 